“USE YOUR TOOLS”
1. IGNORE: If that does not work, then...
2. MOVE AWAY: If that does not work, then…
3. TALK IN A FRIENDLY TONE AND MANNER (“Please stop…”): If that does not work, then…
4. TALK FIRMLY (“Stop, or I will ask for adult help.”): If that doesn’t work, then…
5. GET ADULT HELP.
The adult response, when a child has a conflict with another student, is to ask the following:
1. Have you tried your Tools?
2. What step are you on?
3. Come back if you get to the last step and I will help you.
When a child has reached step five and needs adult help, the adult follows these steps:
1. Send for the other child(ren) involved.
2. Provide a place where they can talk.
3. Have them discuss: What do you want to happen? How can you make it happen?
4. Express confidence that they can work it out.
5. Have the children share the agreement with the child(ren).
6. If it is necessary, help the children talk it through.
7. Provide disciplinary consequences if necessary (chronic or serious infractions).
This plan requires children to take steps to solve their own problems. They are acquiring life skills including assertiveness and responsibility that will help them learn effective self-management.
There are times when the “Use Your Tools” plan will not work for your child. It is important to explain to your child if he/she is being threatened or put in danger -- such as being physically attacked -- then it is necessary to seek adult attention immediately!